Parenting an issue ?

Mold it the way you want hold it till it doesn’t get firm after all they are your ‘Taare Zameen Par’

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Today do we really need education of children, rather than we need to educate on parenting issues, Earlier if we see mostly women or mother were not educated and used to work around the household chores, time changed and so the thinking that a women should be educated to know her rights and to guide through her kids well, But to the grit do we find that today’s young working and much educated women’s are very unstable in relationship building and carrying them ahead, why so?
I am dealing largely with the students and so with their parents, to extend of my surprise, I have came across time and again that now when we have sent the kids to study here our responsibility is over? My mind struck on how can parents, ever withdraw by saying so.
Are we being parents too busy to see what is going on in our children life? Are we trying to understand and to communicate with the children? Do we get time on dinner tables to discuss the whole day activities?

All we have is social media communication parents are added in friends list, and the days are celebrated as they have their parents for that particular day i.e. Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and so on. Our relations are largely today depending on days, the guidance that used to start from homes earlier now starts from the crèche or day care? Give a thought before you leave your toddler in the hands of strangers?

Build a place for interaction and communication to discipline kids from toddlers to teens to adolescents there are many ways for parents to improve building strong communication channel and a positive relationships.

Parenting Techniques:-
Try to spend time on a regular basis to do something fun with your child, in doing so many things can be observed in children, Adolescents ,  discipline is the demand of this time so try to implement in front of the children. Agree on what behavior is desirable and not desirable. Today we hardly respond on undesirable behavior of the children. Look for gradual changes in behavior. Don’t expect too much. Praise behavior that is coming closer to the desired goal. Reward desirable behavior as much as possible by verbal praise, touch or something tangible such as a toy, food or money.

The “3 Fs” of Effective Parenting:-

Firm:- Consequences should be clearly stated and then adhered to when the inappropriate behavior occurs.

Fair:- The punishment should fit the crime. Also in the case of recurring behavior, consequences should be stated in advance so the child knows what to expect.

Friendly:-
 Use a friendly but firm communication style to let children share everything with you as a friend instead they share it anywhere else and get an inappropriate advice.

 

INEFFECTIVE PARENTING EFFECT’S:-

This is notably because youth is a time for experimentation and identity forming:-

Drug abuse among children and adolescents is higher this is notably because youth is a time for experimentation and identity forming. (This is the time when they try to find out the person in them the Physical and psychological changes as well plus these days the negligence and peer following are some of the major reasons why adolescents are the vulnerable population to fall prey of this giant abuse) Followed by an association with particular youth subcultures and lifestyles fashion and to trend among their peers,

Report:-

In India an NGO survey revealed that 63.6 % of patients coming in for treatment were introduced to drugs at a young age below 15 years. According to another report 13.1% of the people involved in drug and substance abuse in India, are below 20 years. Heroin, Opium, Alcohol, Cannabis and Propoxyphene is the five most common drugs being abused by children in India. A survey shows that of all alcohol, cannabis and opium users 21%, 3% and 0.1% are below the age of eighteen. An emerging trend about child drug abusers is the use of a cocktail of drugs through injection, and often sharing the same needle, which increases their risk of HIV infection. Overall 0.4% and 4.6% of total treatment seekers in various states were children.

 Lack of Parental Guidance and Communication which is acting as a helping agent:-

W.H.O. Report:-

If current trends continue, 250 million children alive today will be killed by tobacco.” The incidence of drug abuse among children and adolescents is higher than the general population. This is notably because youth is a time for experimentation and identity forming.

Lack of Education and Sensitization:-

There is a major problem in India that there are no sensitization programmes about drug abuse in schools or for children out of school. The use of tobacco is another major concern amongst children. In India 20 million children a year and nearly 55,000 children a day are drawn into a tobacco addition.

Street children and risks attached to them.:-

The use of certain drugs such as whitener, alcohol, tobacco, hard and soft drugs is especially wide spread among street children, working children and trafficked children the high use of intravenous drugs is accompanied by sharing of needles and hence a high prevalence of HIV/AIDS.  Children affected by Substance Abuse and other criminal activities they fall in.

NGO’s ,Help Groups, Psychologists, Therapist’s, Correction centers :-

There are many NGO’s and Help groups which are working day and night to Echo on such social evils and the role of proper Parenting techniques. Not only substance abuse but now we have internet as a source of wrong information provider and a place to get trapped in wrong groups and sites.
Parents should acknowledge the source of information what their kids are getting and how to put restrictions on them. They should understanding the unique needs of a toddler or adolescent, seeking alternatives to time-outs or punishment, or ending physical or emotional violence within the family, Violence is another cause that children notice at home and get emotional trauma and to deal with it they fall prey of various ill habits, plus the family structure in India is also a bigger reason of parenting problems,

The nuclear family system:-

The nuclear family system and suspending the traditional joint family system where children used to have someone always at home to look after them and their activities.

At last you are the one who is the first listener, the incentive provider, the guide, first friend, teacher,  role model, critics and an observer who else can better guide and judge the kids then the parents themselves but if things go wrong way always seek help!!!

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Mold it the way you want hold it till it doesn’t get firm after all they are your ‘Taare Zameen Par’

Wishes all its readers and Nation a very happy and prosperous Diwali.
‘Be save, Keep safe and say no to Alcohol’

The month of festivals clearly identify the diversity of Indian rich heritage and unity in diversity the beautiful month of October, well from the begging till the end of the month it’s all about celebration. 
From 1st of October where Navratri  begins to 31st of October  Diwali Gowardhan Puja, Annakut, Bali Pratipada, Dyuta Krida, New Samvat Begins, It’s never the end of celebration colour’s love joy food and the time of togetherness.

 

Little things to remember try to buy the earthen diya’s so that the prosperity also knocks the doors of these potters.
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Don’t waste too much on crackers as save your money, environment and try to have colorful decorative diwali instead of having a noisy one.

Try to look around for people who are sick and old keep them away from noise and the smoke, go green.

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Play hard party hard enjoy every second of festival but ‘Be save and Keep safe Avoid Alcohol’

Buy products from poor people making their diwali a happy and prosperous one.
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Wishes all its readers and Nation a very happy and prosperous Diwali.
     ‘Be save, Keep safe and say no to Alcohol’

Is it suicide if you’re already dead inside?

Although yes it is but to live is very difficult and to die is easy as easy you sleep.

Search for light within you that dimnish due to the reasons hurrdles negativities failure and so on .

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I just need to breathe but I’m suffocating. Even after the deepest breath I’m still gasping for air.
Depressions like that; no matter how free you are there are still chains around your ankles. Weights dragging you down. Boulders tied to your arms.

I’m going to honest – suicide has been playing on my mind a lot recently. It seems increasingly like the only solution to what I’ve been feeling.

I’ve spent the last year telling myself I’ve been getting better. Telling myself I’m recovered. Telling myself I’m fine. But I know I’ve just been lying and I don’t think I can cope anymore. People are saying how proud they are of me for coming this far but all I can see is deceit.

It’s been 5 weeks since I’ve been at univerity and everything just seems to keep getting worse. Maybe it because I’ve not seen my family…

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BEG BORROW OR STEAL

The huge economic depression leading its way if we turn some pages from history and find the dark age so is it now as well.

The huge economic depression leading its way if we turn some pages from history and find the dark age so is it now as well. 

We are leading towards scientific  era where nothing is impossible. But we are aware very well that we are loosing the human race mentally physically emotionally as well hunger poverty thirst is reaching on its peak and  to owe us to do what we can, to fight and for better survival but are’nt we forgetting what we are gonna leave for next generation who will be more vulnerable to all these dangers even to this time.

Crimes, lust, poverty, drug addition, unwanted and illicit relationships ?

Virtual Relations VS Real Relations

Hardly now we memorize any of the numbers, remember the dates and days, What we don’t forget is the status update?

Today we are connected and living in the most developed stage of life also called Science Age i guess?

Are we really connected?
Do we know the real address of our friend on networking sites?
But then why we believe on them ?
Hardly we get to talk to our Real relations about our problems?
On dinner table how long do we interact with family members?
Falling in love on net ?
Lack of faith in Real relationships ?
Trending fashion of having Girlfriend & Boyfriend ?
But why not Marriages ?
Why we need relationship manager on matrimony site ?
We are not capable to handle our own relations?
Over the years why it became a taboo’None working girls do not get married’?
Where are social gatherings and parties ?
Families got isolated?
We are getting lurked to a technology that is giving us nothing but loneliness with not even letting us know that how far have we been came to with it ?
Going some ones homes makes feel offended because half of there interest is in T.V or replying on social media sites.
A household women is not counted as an important part in life ?
Why do we have so many comparisons, weighting of relations, profit and loss before making one, Societal benefits etc.
Why do we need these sites to show whats going on in life by an EMO JI ?
Do we have hard copies of photographs ?
Hardly now we memorize any of the numbers, remember the dates and days, What we don’t forget is the status update?

The technological singularity is the hypothesis that the invention of artificial super intelligence will abruptly trigger run away technological growth, resulting in unfathomable changes to human civilization.

Technological slaves.
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Pitty Democratic People

From political affairs to, The trending fashion of neo nomenclature appeared and to some extend successfully survived in breathing of Nation,

From political affairs to, The trending fashion of neo nomenclature appeared and to some extend successfully survived in breathing of Nation,

From bringing back, Kala Dhan to Kohinoor, nothing came except the age old tradition of peoples faith in vowing the emotional attyachar and vote bank divergence through ideological extremes towards political benefits.

From Vijay Mallya to the poor dying farmers, the faith is still surviving with the ‘Richie Rich,
From letters to slogans, The war of words to slangs
Justice seems no where .

‘Beneficiary are only the most Malicious Group’
and then we are told by the constitution to respect that group, who says
Suicide of farmer’s is a fashion.

The claims of surgical strike propaganda and making it the last way to vote. Whether it is National or international affair the heat of politics and its related effects only effect the public, who innocently every time votes and elect those who turns to be nothing but the blood suckers of Nations Tolerance, Unity, and Economic resources. 
My views #writerspoint
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World Mental Health Day 10Oct

What a patient of Mental illness need is all Medicines, love, care , acceptance, proper channel of communication, Treatment by Psychologist, Psychiatrist, Counsellors, social workers.

What comes to mind when thinking of a person suffering from Depression or Manic disorder or OCD ? A Crack person ? weird ? An abnormal person who doesn’t suits to be in society or a danger to others ? Yes to some extend a normal mind doesn’t except someone suffering from any mental ailment, on the other hand why do we take as a part of life any PHYSICAL AILMENT ?

 

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 According to the World Health Organisation, ‘if we don’t act urgently, by 2030 depression will be the leading illness globally.’ And this is not wrong to say  as we have become more of slaves of our needs and to full fill working like slaves of our own needs day and night, how much do we interact with each other at the end of the day.
Mobiles has taken place of social interaction and that too which goes in vein and useless when help is needed, do we have real friend hardly any shoulder to support us emotionally, but we know the status of friends on our social networking friends list.

How much we are surrounded with technology to which we praise but are we able to balance our real relations and share that grim gloomy sad days with someone.

Relations are only sticked upon girlfriend and boyfriend, but do they last long , is there believe faith ? Are they working ?

At large Marriages are not working anymore today.

Depression loneliness sadness overburdened with performance no matter wether it is children, elders , professionals, its like we are running in a rat race which has no end today .

I see parents coming and saying now its your duty to see our kids we have submitted the fees ? is it so really ? The role of parenting ends on just sending kids to colleges and paying fees ?

i suffered from Psychological disorder in which my parents my family supported in healing my heart. What a patient of Mental illness need is all Medicines, love, care , acceptance, proper channel of communication, Treatment by Psychologist, Psychiatrist, Counsellors, social workers.

Don’t make Mental illness a stereotype, Myths, and relating it with ‘PAGALPAN’ (Madness)

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writerspointfinallogo

PET’S A GREAT WAY TO EXPRESS YOUR LONELINESS WITH THEM.

It is beyond any language the language of love and understanding matrix

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My beauty busy digesting her food with betel leaf and Areca nut 


The budgerigar also known as the common pet parakeet or shell parakeet and informally nicknamed the budgie, is a small, long-tailed, seed-eating parrot.

But my Budgie experience is going on different track, she eats all the authentic home made ‘MIRCH MASALE wala khana’ (spicy food), to Chinese Manchurian, noodles and what yesterday it was my Bday and she was sitting on dinning table waiting for the cake to be cut and sliced.

The first bite of my birthday cake was taken by my budgie’ bundle of joy for me my friend in loneliness ‘  Her expressions and her anger , love everything is very determined.

When i return home back from work on the knock of door she starts making loud noise and then all she wants is time and talking, sometimes it is not possible and then she comes to my room again and again till i dint rises up and give her time on her favorite place in home i.e dinning room, and her quench for food gets set as the whole family sits on dinning table.

Our pets are great way to bring joy in life and if some time we can spend on observing the beauty of Lord how this interaction process takes place between animals and humans no matter in which language you tame your pet , It is beyond any language the language of love and understanding matrix 

Toothless Babbling Baby.

Happy Teachers Day, Mom’s are first teachers to hear us to understand us even when we are Toothless Babbling Babies.

When i start here it is quiet sure that i am confused, i remember that little spiral green diary !!! That my mom gave me, knowing that i love  to write and what i used to write were very little inappropriate peaces of little thinker, some letters some picture writing and some little stories that i jotted down there in little green diary without thinking or planning of what i was writing then.
Today i feel the importance of that diary and that prompt action of my mother which cherished me to write ever after.

Happy Teachers Day, Mom’s are first teachers to hear us to understand us even when we are Toothless Babbling Babies.